Giving Yourself Permission to Follow Your Dreams

I spent the first week of August in New York City, attending the BlogHer conference. I attended a fabulous session on blogging and branding that included my friends Jill Krause and Gina Crosley-Corcoran. Basically, it was about faking it ’til you make it in the blogging world. (If you want more on faking it ’til you make it, stop by on Saturday for this week’s vlog.) One of the things that they discussed is giving yourself permission to take your thing seriously, whether it’s a blog or a business or a dream.

Many of us use the word just a lot when we’re talking about our dreams and passions. As in, just an idea, just something small, just something I’m starting, or just this thing I’d like to someday. We qualify our dreams and downplay them. We do this because we’re worried it won’t work out, because we’re afraid of looking silly in front or others or because we feel as if we don’t know what we’re doing. We all feel these things from time to time, including people who others regard as being very successful. But when we downplay our dreams, we’re doing ourselves a disservice. We’re listening to our dragons and talking ourselves out of doing the work that we need to do to make great things happen.

Gearing up for the blogging and branding session
The panelists get ready at BlogHer

In contrast, when you give yourself permission to really believe in your thing – whatever it is – great things can happen. Sports psychologists talk a lot about visualization techniques. Visualization is about creating a mental image of what you want to accomplish. Research shows that this can improve both psychological and physical reaction. One Russian study actually found that Olympic athletes performed best when they spent 75% of their time in mental training and 25% in physical training.

This isn’t magic, and I actually don’t think it’s the same thing as the Law of Attraction. This is about creating a mental space for yourself where you believe you can accomplish something, and you’re willing to work to make it happen. When you feel that your dreams have worth, and you’re a capable person, you have two of the most important ingredients for motivating yourself. And, in truth, motivating yourself is one of the hardest parts of any job.

It’s always easier to sit on the couch and watch television. That takes no effort. Creating a meaningful life and pursuing your passions, on the other hand, takes a fair bit of effort. But you’re worth the effort. So give yourself permission to be serious, and take a few steps towards your bliss. You may be surprised by how much you can do once you really get going.

Making Decisions with Imperfect Information

How do you react when you’re facing a big decision? When there’s a lot on the line it’s easy to become paralyzed as you consider your options, until you reach a point where you can’t make a decision at all. I’ve been there. I think maybe we’ve all been there. It can be even worse when you’re crafting a more meaningful life, because you’re often wading into uncharted territory. You may feel as if you lack the experience to make a good decision.

This week I attended a networking breakfast where Trisha Miltimore presented six tips for moms who are looking to reclaim their own identities. They were all good, but this one really resonated with me:

You can only make decisions today based on the information you have right now.

What I took away from that statement is the idea that we’re always operating in the present moment. That’s the way life works. This means that our decision-making and our thought processes will change as we gain new insights and information, but there will never be a moment when we know everything and can make the perfect choice. On top of that, the best decision for today may not be the same as the best decision for tomorrow.

Having a plan – or a rough framework for where you’re going if the word plan isn’t comfortable for you – can help you as you make your next move. If you’re not able to create a plan or framework because you’re afraid of creating the wrong one, you’re not going to get very far. So take the information you have right now, do a bit of research if you feel you need to, and make the best decision you can today. Don’t wait until you have all the information, because you never will. Don’t wait until the perfect decision becomes clear, because it never will.

Arriving in Maui for my honeymoon
Don’t let decision-making angst get to you

Is it possible that, once you have more information, you’ll see flaws in your decision? Yes, it is. However, you will likely never get the experience you need to see those flaws if you don’t act. Sometimes, we learn by reading and researching. Other times, we have to learn by trial and error. This doesn’t mean that you did the wrong thing, it just means you did the best you could at the time. You deserve credit for that.

There’s another way to get around your paralysis when you’re faced with a big decision, and that’s to break it down into smaller pieces. If creating a 10 year personal plan feels like too much, start smaller. Create a three month plan. Or a three day plan. Or a three hour plan. Take smaller actions so that the stakes are lower as you experiment. You’re only operating with the information – and the resources – that you have right now. You don’t need to have all the answers. You don’t need to know exactly where you’ll be a decade from now. So break your decisions down until they feel comfortable for you.

All that you can do is make the best decisions for yourself with the information you have right now. And as you reflect on your past mistakes, be gentle with yourself. Remember that you didn’t know then what you know now. You were still learning. And yet, every step you took brought you closer to where you are today, and closer to where you’re going next. In the end, it’s more important that you took those steps than it is that you took the perfect step at the perfect moment every time. I’d like to thank Trisha Miltimore for reminding me of that.

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Cultivating Good Personal Habits

I have this podcast over on Strocel.com. Pretty much every week, I interview someone interesting or inspiring, and share it on my blog and on iTunes. I enjoy it immensely, and I do it mostly for that reason alone. When you have a podcast you get to hear fascinating stories, ask nosy questions, and have conversations with people you wouldn’t otherwise get to talk to. It’s really pretty awesome.

Recently I spoke with success coach Susan Washington. I met Susan via my fabulous boss at VancouverMom.ca, Christine Pilkington, and I’ve been receiving coaching from her. I thought her perspective would be a great one to share, and I wanted the chance to pick her brain a little and learn more about her as a person. See? Nosy.

One of the things that Susan spoke about during our interview (which you can hear for yourself on May 18, 2012) is the importance of cultivating good personal habits. These are the things we all know we should do, but that we often don’t. Things like:

  • drinking enough water
  • exercising
  • eating well
  • meditating
  • getting enough sleep

I confess that I often don’t take as much care of myself as I should. I take care of lots of other people, each and every day. I make sure that my kids don’t watch too much TV. I also make sure that they have unstructured time, they get enough sleep, they eat well, they have regular physical activity, and all that jazz. I do this because I am their mom, and it’s my job. But when it comes to myself, I regularly fall short. I put off lunch when I’m at home by myself, and end up eating something fast and not-so-nutritious when the hunger pangs overwhelm me. I stay up far too late every night, because it’s my only quiet time. And I even find myself ignoring the urge to pee, instead of just getting up and visiting the bathroom.

Susan’s point, in discussing self-care, is that it’s really hard to do your best work when your energy is low. And when you’re not taking care of yourself, your energy is low. If you want to accomplish great stuff, you can’t be chronically sleep-deprived. I understand this. You understand this. It’s just common sense. Understanding this isn’t enough, though. At some point, you have to put it into action.

I’ve been undergoing a bit of a transition, recently. I’ve let go of some commitments that are no longer working for me. This has freed up some time – at least in theory. In practice, though, I haven’t felt things ease up. I feel just as busy as ever. It’s no surprise that I’ve also been staying up later than usual recently. In speaking with Susan, I realized that it was time for me to put some of my own knowledge about self-care into action. I’ve gone to bed before midnight for the past several nights, and (surprise! surprise!) I have more energy. I’m not as exhausted. I’m also more productive.

It’s unlikely that a sudden, dramatic lifestyle change is going to stick. If you decide to start taking better care of yourself on every front at once, it’s going to overwhelm you. But small changes can make a big difference, and small changes can snowball. I’ve started by getting a little more sleep every night. You could also start by drinking a little more water, taking a short walk every day, or spending five minutes sitting quietly. Little things – but not insignificant. Because each time you take action to improve your well-being, you’re reminding yourself that you’re important. And you are.

Today is my birthday. It feels fitting that I would start off a personal year by committing to cultivating good personal habits, and take better care of myself. Will you join me?

I’m very excited to say that I have something big landing on Mother’s Day. And best of all, it’s totally FREE! Follow Crafting my Life on Facebook and subscribe to the mail list and be the first to hear all about it.

Owning Your Story

In my last post I talked about our defensive responses, and how they get in the way when we’re trying to live an authentic and purposeful life. I shared this quote from Brene Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection:

If we want to live fully, without the constant fear of not being enough, we have to own our story.

Today, I’m going to talk about owning your story, and what that really means.

Working on Ourselves

A couple of months ago, I interviewed Marcy Axness, the author of Parenting for Peace, for the Strocel.com Podcast. One of the things that she discussed is how, as parents, we really find ourselves confronting our own stuff in new ways. Finding yourself alone with a crying baby, forced to subvert your own needs and desires to theirs 24/7, really forces you to dig deep and raises issues from your long past. Here’s part of what she had to say:

The exciting news from neuroscience is that even if you had the worst childhood, it doesn’t have to have a negative impact on your kids. By connecting more deeply with our own inner lives, we lay the healthiest foundation for our children’s development. Your own self-awareness actually helps shape the optimal wiring of your child’s social brain and future success.

Marcy’s talking about raising kids, but I think that you can spin this a little bit, and apply it to living a life of intention. The underlying point she’s making is that by working on the stuff that’s tripping us up, we can create an atmosphere that allows both ourselves and our children to thrive. We don’t have to be defined by our past. But we do have to acknowledge it, come to terms with it, and integrate it into our own lives in a way that helps us to understand what happened and then move forward in a positive direction.

But how do you do this? Everyone is different, and every experience is different, but here are a few things that work for me.

"Story Road"
Image credit: umjanedoan on Flickr

Owning Your Personal Story

  1. Do some personal investigation on your defensive response, and why you’re having it. Journaling, painting, or engaging in another creative pursuit can be very helpful in getting to the bottom of your feelings. What is it about this thing that happened to you that has made it so painful for you?
  2. Do something positive for yourself. What can you do to remind yourself that you’re worthwhile and you deserve happiness, that doesn’t involve invoking one of your defensive responses?
  3. Tell someone you trust what happened, so that you can give voice to your story. Who is in your corner, to help you work through this experience? This is the hardest part, but it’s also the most important, because our dragons have a much harder time whispering in our ear when we’re having an actual conversation with a real person.
  4. Decide what you want to get out of the situation. How can you move forward in a positive direction from here? What will you take from this, and what will you leave?
  5. Formulate a response, if a response is necessary. If someone hurt you, what do you need from them? If you hurt someone else, how can you make amends gracefully?
  6. Create a recap for yourself of what happened and why. Once again, journaling, painting, or engaging in some other creative pursuit can be helpful. How does this episode factor into your personal story?

Allow Yourself to Feel the Pain

Investigating our personal pain isn’t easy. Marcy Axness said something else during our interview that applies here:

When we can recognize that this is something that happened that we had no control over, that was painful to us as well – sometimes it’s a funny thing. Sometimes we might veer towards guilt because in an odd, protective way, guilt can be almost less scary than for us to allow ourselves to feel the sadness or the loss or the pain. It’s a little bit more sturdy of a place to go, but it’s not helpful. I know, for me, a big part of why I was so locked up as a new mom was that there was a conviction deep in me that if I allowed myself to go to that sadness place I would never come out, I would just drown in it.

The pain, the loss, the sadness and the shame that we feel are hard. Very, very hard. Sometimes, we need professional support to help us through it. Some situations are too big and too wide to cross on our own. But the truth is that we really won’t drown in sadness. In fact, allowing ourselves to feel those emotions, and work through them, is the only thing that will really help us come out the other side and feel joy. Avoiding difficult emotions, by invoking our defensive responses, only makes things worse, as we constantly try to run from our own lives. When we do that, we’re feeding our dragons, which are really the source of so much of our fear and pain.

It takes courage and trust to really own your story. If you’re willing to do the work, though, you will be able to create a much more meaningful and purposeful life. That’s worth a little discomfort, don’t you think?

New Crafting my Life Interviewees

I’m making plans for what happens next in Crafting my Life. I’m waiting for the final design for the Crafting my Life e-Book, and I’m making some additions to my online class for busy moms ready to find their purpose for the next run. If you’re ready for a change in your life, and you want to be the first to hear what I do next, as well as be eligible for advance access and special pricing, subscribe to my mail list!

It was almost a year ago that I first announced the Crafting my Life interviewees. These are the people that I interviewed for the Crafting my Life online class in order to gain their perspective. I recorded our conversations, and as part of the class I shared the audio files with participants. In the process, we all had the chance to hear different viewpoints and learn from other people.

I am pleased to announce that I’ve added three new interviews to the class. Let me tell you a little bit more about the people I’ve been chatting with.

New Crafting my Life Audio Interviews

  • Christine Pilkington, CEO of Crisp Media – I will be sharing my interview with Christine during the first week of Crafting my Life, when discuss taking stock of our lives. In a little less than two years Christine took a very small initial investment and built a website, and then turned it into a national network of online magazines targeted at mothers. She gave birth to her third child midway through that two year period, as well. I thought her story would be a great place to start the class, as we see how we can build something from almost nothing, while also raising young children.
  • Rachel Jonat, the Minimalist Mom – Rachel writes about living a full life with less stuff. She’s the mom of a toddler, who’s dedicated to simplifying her life as much as possible. In the process, she’s paid off debt and changed her lifestyle. I’ll be sharing her interview as we discuss making space in our lives. In order to build a life of intention and purpose, we often need to remove the things from our lives that aren’t working for us, and I could think of no better person than Rachel to discuss that process.
  • Britt Reints from In Pursuit of Happiness – In June of this year Britt and her family embarked on a year-long RV trip around the United States. To prepare, they sold most of their belongings, enrolled their kids in a virtual school, and did some serious financial planning. I’ll be sharing my conversation with Britt during the week we discuss life mapping. Since she is literally mapping out a journey at the moment, she seemed like the perfect person to speak with. She’s inspiring, funny and totally real, and I loved hearing how she prepared for her year in an RV.

I’ve been saying that I’m making plans for Crafting my Life 3.0 for some time now, but I’m getting serious. It’s going to happen early in the New Year, and these interviews, as well as all the others I did for the first two classes, will be included with the other course material. My fabulous interviewees have a whole lot of inspiration to share, and I’m so glad to be able to bring that to the Crafting my Life class participants.

You can expect an announcement on exactly when Crafting my Life 3.0 will start, and how you can register, in the days following Christmas. For now, I’m busy editing interviews and finalizing my e-book design. Lots of things are happening. If you’d like to be the first to hear what’s up, make sure to subscribe to my mail list. Not only will you be in the know – you’ll also be eligible for advance discount pricing and more.

Getting Down to the Essence

Today I interviewed Britt Reints – better known as Miss Britt. Her blog, In Pursuit of Happiness, is an amazing and inspiring read. She’s on a mission to find happiness, and that has led her to sell most of what she owns and move into a 24-foot RV with her husband and two children. They’re spending a year driving around the US, seeing their country in a new way. Whether that sounds like heaven or hell to you, I think we can all agree that watching another person pursue their passion is a pretty amazing thing. I knew I wanted to talk to her, and I’ll be sharing her interview in the next session of Crafting my Life.

We talked about a lot of things during our 30 minute conversation, but she mentioned one thing that I wanted to explore and expand on. On Mondays, she runs a feature called Happiness Highlights on her blog. In the post, she talks about something that made her happy during the past week. When we were talking, she said that it’s not usually about the thing, though, it’s about what underlies that thing. So, for example, you might say that you’re happy about being on vacation, but what you’re actually happy about is getting to spend more time with your family or being away from the stress of work for a while or getting to feel the sun on your skin.

So often, we think we have to escape from our lives to find happiness. Britt said that isn’t so. Happiness isn’t about the situation – it’s about the feelings that the situation brings out in you. If you can boil it down to its essence, and see what it really is that makes your heart sing, then you’ve found your bliss. If you can name your bliss, then you can take concrete steps to bring more of it into your life, when your vacation is over and you’re back into the daily grind. That is what will bring more happiness into your life, in the long run.

A lot of us struggle with naming our passions. If you feel this way, naming something that you enjoy doing is a good place to start. See if you can come up with just one thing, and then ask yourself what it is about it that makes you happy. For instance, I might say that I like to go snorkeling. The truth is I rarely get to go snorkeling, but when I’ve done it, it’s been awesome. I like it because I like that experience of sort of being in my own little space, and being present in the moment. I appreciate quiet time when I can fully experience something, and I can bring more of that into my life, even if I can’t regularly don flippers and a face mask to look at fish.

Try boiling your own happiness down to its essence, and see what you find. What have you got to lose?

But Somebody Else is Doing it Already

Let me paint a picture for you. Imagine that you have this great idea, and you’ve decided that you’re going to pursue it. It probably took a fair bit of hand-wringing and weighing pros and cons to get you to this point, but you’re here now, and you’re giving it your best effort. Full of excitement and trepidation, you tell your friend what you’re up to, and she says, “Oh, somebody is doing that already.” Then she shares a whole lot of info, and you check them out online, and they are doing it. And, what’s more, you think they might even be doing it better than you could.

I think that many of us encounter this sort of thing as we go out into the world to do our Thing. The truth is that there are a lot of people in the world, and whatever idea you come up with has probably already been thought of before. There are exceptions, of course, particularly if you’re using cutting-edge technology. But for the most part, if one person has a good idea, someone else probably has it, too. Great minds think alike, after all.

I am not the only person who runs an online class on living with greater authenticity. I’m also not the only person who runs an online class geared specifically to moms. I wasn’t aware of most of the other classes when I started building Crafting my Life. When I found them, I felt a little knot in my stomach. Then I got over it, and if the same thing happens to you, I would recommend that you get over it, too.

Here’s the thing – there’s room in the world for more than one painter, more than photographer, more than one writer and more than one farmer. And, what’s more, I happen to think that having a variety of people working on something is a good thing. Going with the farmer example, when I go to my farmers’ market each week I visit many different vendors, even though they often have similar items on offer. I just happen to think that farmer X has the best tomatoes, farmer Y has the best garlic and farmer Z has the best eggs. If each one of those farmers gave up farming because someone else was doing it already, the world would be a poorer place.

The truth is that we all bring a truly unique commodity to whatever we’re doing, and that commodity is ourselves. No one else is going to approach any particular task in exactly the same way that we will. Even if someone else has the same general idea, the creations that result will be two entirely different things in the end. Just as the people who created them are two entirely different people.

Now, this isn’t to say that there isn’t such a thing as market saturation, because there is. I probably wouldn’t open my kids’ art studio immediately next door to another one, for example. It’s a good idea to do a little research and get the lay of the land before you sign a lease. It may also give you an idea of what you can bring to the table that other people aren’t already offering. Let your individuality shine through, and show people what you alone can do.

I think being yourself is the most effective marketing tool you have. It certainly beats the pants off comparing yourself to others. It’s one reason that I’m deliberately avoiding using the phrase “the competition” in this post. It’s true that you can think of other people in your field as competitors, but I think it’s better to think of them as potential collaborators. From time to time people will come to you who aren’t a good fit for what you have to offer. This is when knowing who is a good fit for them comes in handy. In the process, you’ll build relationships and maybe even find friends and mentors.

So don’t despair if you’re not the first person ever to set up an Etsy shop, start a photography business or write a novel. And don’t waste your energy comparing yourself to the people who have gone before. Instead, bring your own individual style to whatever you’re doing, build mutual relationships and do your Thing without apology. Because you don’t ever have to say you’re sorry for making your art.

Have you ever felt discouraged because you discovered that someone else was already doing your Thing? Do you spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others? Or have you found ways to collaborate and cooperate with others in your field? I’d love to hear about it!

The Improbability of it All

Early bird registration for the Crafting my Life online class on living with intention is open now. You get all of the inspiration for $30 off full price. Sign up today, and get ready to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life!

I recently recorded Oprah Winfrey’s Master Class, and I’ve been watching it in pieces. I have little kids, after all, so I do everything in pieces. I rarely watch Oprah’s show – in fact, I haven’t seen an entire episode since our TV died in November, 2008. We’ve had a TV again for almost five months, and I have yet to tune in. But the Master Class, for whatever reason, intrigued me, and I’ve been enjoying it.

Early on in the first episode Oprah points out the improbability of every person’s existence. The odds against you being here are really staggeringly high. The average man produces 1500 sperm a second, or about 130 million a day. Just think about that. There are only 30 million people in Canada, total. A woman has about 300,000 eggs. So if you want to start playing with statistics, you can see that winning the lottery seems pretty likely compared to ever being born.

What does this mean, though? Does the fact that our very existence is a long shot mean something about us, and the significance of our lives? I’m not really sure. That’s probably a question for a philosopher or a theologian, and I am neither. But I will say that it makes me look at my own children differently. I can’t imagine having different kids than the two I ended up with. The fact that their existence is so tremendously unlikely makes them seem even more precious. Of course, I would have felt the same way about them if I’d had different children, but the fact is that I didn’t have different children. I had these ones, and they are totally unique and irreplaceable.

If my children are unique and irreplaceable, then I am unique and irreplaceable, too. And so are you. And so is that guy who usually sits across from you on the train, or the teacher at your kid’s preschool who is always just a little too perky at 8:30am drop-off. We’re all statistical improbabilities, and the fact that we’re here at all is amazing.

This could all just be random chance. I’m not so sure that it isn’t. But as I thought about it, here’s the conclusion that I reached – if my life is so rare and valuable and totally unlikely, I sure as heck want to do something with it. I want to wring all of the living that I can out of my time here. Viewed this way, our entire lives are sort of like a week-long tropical vacation that took over a year to plan – a brief and precious interlude, not to be wasted.

Now, this doesn’t mean that I expect myself to achieve the same kind of fame and fortune that Oprah has. It also doesn’t mean that I expect myself to give up all past-times that don’t directly contribute to the world in some way. Sometimes, doing nothing in particular is just what is called for. And sometimes, success is measured in how many slobbery, open-mouthed baby kisses you get, not how big your house is.

What I’m saying is that, to go with the Oprah theme, I want to live my own best life. A life that I generally enjoy living, and that fits me, quirks and all. Because each one of those quirks is a gift, really. It lets me know that I’m me, imperfect and unfinished and completely myself. There can’t be another one of me – Oprah told me so – and so I am going to embrace my me-ness. I suspect that may really be the secret to life, in the end.

When you consider how unlikely it is that you would ever be born, how do you feel? Does it make your life seem more precious, or not? Please share your thoughts!

Do Not Do List

I’m currently reading The Happiest Mom by Meagan Francis. I’ll be talking about the book in more detail, and sharing a podcast of an interview I did with Meagan, on April 16 at Strocel.com. It’s a great book, and I had a great time chatting with Meagan, so stay tuned for that. But right now, I want to talk about an idea I got from the book. It’s profound and simple – make your life easier by creating a “Do Not Do” list.

I am constantly talking about my word for 2011, which is “space”. I want to create more space in my life for myself, and it strikes me that a “Do Not Do” list is a great way to do that. You can make a “Do Not Do Right Now” list, or a “Do Not Do This Year” list, or a “Do Not Do Ever” list. And you can use it to let yourself off the hook in big and little ways.

But this exercise can be about a whole lot more than creating space. It strikes me that while many of us aren’t sure about what we want to do, we often have some good ideas about what we don’t want to do. Honouring those preferences – that is, not forcing ourselves to do things we hate – is every bit as important as following our bliss. Ditching the stuff that isn’t working for us can be the first step in giving ourselves the freedom to live with intention. As we become more clear on what we don’t want, those things we do want often become more clear.

And so, in an effort to honour myself and create some space, I’m taking inspiration from Meagan and writing my own “Do Not Do” list.


Things I Will Not Do, No Way, No How

  • Dust
  • Sign my kids up for more than one activity at a time
  • Work all alone in a gray cubicle
  • Sell a product I don’t believe in
  • Buy second-hand underwear
  • Hit my kids
  • Hang out with people who treat me badly
  • Wear thong underwear
  • Sew my own pants
  • Sew for money
  • Cut hair, starting with my own and working out from there
  • Drive more than two hours from home with a 2-year-old
  • Eat processed cheese

My list is unique to me. If you do some of these things, and they work for you, that’s great. Sew your own pants while eating processed cheese with my blessing. This exercise is about honouring our own preferences, so I am giving myself the freedom to state mine. I hope that you feel free to state yours, too. So, please, jump in. What’s on your “Do Not Do” list?

The Fabulous Robin

I have this online friend. Her name is Robin, but she’s better known to most people as woowoo mama. She has a great blog, which really speaks to me when I read it. She’s cool. If you haven’t visited her, you should.

Robin got in touch with me when she heard that I was doing this course, and offered to help. At first, my dragons piped up. “You don’t want to be a burden,” they said. “If you ask for too much, then you’ll make her angry and she won’t like you anymore at all.” I was tempted to write her back and say, “Thanks so much, but I’ve got it all under control, and I really don’t need any help at all!”

But then I remembered that in 2011 I am all about giving myself space. And it occurred to me that accepting help that is offered is one great way to give myself space. And so I took her up on it.

Robin has kindly agreed to act as Community Leader for the Crafting my Life online community. The online community is a place where people who are registered for the class can get together and talk and share the journey. Robin will be helping to keep the discussion going and generally serving as a resource. And I so appreciate her for it.

I think that this space thing is really working out for me. It’s reminding me that I do not have to do everything-all-by-myself-all-the-time. I can seize any opportunity I find to give myself a little breathing room. And you can, too. I give you permission.

Now exhale. Ahhhh. Doesn’t that feel better?

But that’s not all! As part of the class I am interviewing some really fabulous folks, and I will share the audio from those interviews during the class. I will be interviewing Robin for the 12th and final week, which is all about carrying the change forward. I’m really looking forward to hearing what she has to say.

If you would like to craft your life, you have until 9pm today to enter for a chance at a free course registration. Or you can just go ahead and sign up – I’d love to have you!

Now, tell me. When someone offers to help you, what is your first impulse? Do you find it easy to accept, or are you inclined to say no for fear of being a burden? I’d love to hear!